Read: 13th July 2020 – 16th July 2020
Spoilers in review: No
I livetweeted my reading of this book, which you can find here!
Loveless is an aroace discovery/coming out story set during main character Georgia’s first year of university, and I loved it.
This book is incredibly important. People who are aromantic and/or asexual will benefit greatly from reading this because it will let them know that they aren’t alone, that there’s nothing wrong with them, and that romantic relationships aren’t vital to leading a fulfilling life. People who aren’t aromantic and/or asexual will benefit greatly from reading this because it will help them to understand that their experiences aren’t universal, and that also even if you do experience these forms of attraction, that doesn’t mean that you should feel like you have to force yourself into doing things that you don’t want to do or aren’t ready for.
This book also shows that difference people react to stress in different ways, that self-sabotage can come in many different forms, and even something that you ‘enjoy’ doing can become unhealthy and damaging if done for the wrong reasons. Having sex with a different guy every night is all well and good if that’s what you genuinely want to be doing, but if you’re just trying to pretend you aren’t lonely then you’re seriously not doing yourself any favours.
I would’ve loved to have this book during my first year of uni, and I knew plenty of people in high school and I know plenty of people in university now who would benefit from reading this book.
Now that the serious part is out of the way, I’m going to get a little more subjective, and I’m going to do this by sharing some of my thoughts on the main characters.
Georgia: I love her !! I’m aro-spec ace myself, and I related so much to a lot of what she said and what she was going through. Also, like Georgia, I realised that I was ace during my first year of university, when I was suddenly confronted with people who are having sex on the regular, and honestly a lot of the things she said felt like they could have come out of my own brain. Not everything she said, but a lot of it. She cares so much about her friends and wants them to have the entire world and we love to see it!
Rooney: Driven, extroverted, and an expert at self-destruction. I felt so much for Rooney while I was reading. She was trying so hard to be a bubbly manic pixie dream girl, but it just made her feel awful. She’s Georgia’s opposite in every way, something that the characters themselves notice, and so I didn’t really relate to her very much, but I know people who are just like her, and I think that a lot of people could benefit from seeing her growth. Also her reaction to seeing her crush at a certain point, which you’ll know if you’ve read it, was hysterical and I loved it!
Pip: A Latina lesbian who is secure in her identity and unapologetic about who she is! I didn’t always agree with her actions, but I understood why she made the choices she did, and at the end of the day she’s someone who feels her emotions deeply and cares about her friends. Also her way of texting sounded exactly like one of my friends which was more than a little spooky.
Jason: A total sweetheart! He’s a great friend to the rest of the group, which I adored! He’s also really into Scooby Doo, especially the original live actions, and he’s Right. Those movies are excellent and anyone who says otherwise doesn’t know what fun is.
Sunil: Probably my favourite character in the whole book! Sunil is asexual, non-binary, and the president of the Pride Society. Which, same on all counts, I am also all three of these things. He works hard to make sure that Pride Soc is accessible and inclusive for everyone who wants a place there (exclusionists are the Worst and it made me so happy to see them explicity portrayed as being wrong). They also have a tendency to overshare, which he’s self aware of and they would often call himself out on it, but I found it endearing. He also talked about how he’d used to struggle with queer spaces being mostly white, which is definitely a big issue with queer spaces in reality that as a community we need to work on. Every time that Sunil appeared on-page I found myself wanting to give them a huge hug, and I’m really glad that a character like them was in this book.
Springboarding off what I’ve said about Sunil, the portrayal of the Pride Soc made me very emotional, because Oseman captured exactly what makes it so special. Pride Socs, and queer spaces in general, allow queer people to exist and socialise without any of the fear that could be following them around elsewhere. They get to spend time with people who get it, who understand, and that’s vital for many people. I made my friends at uni through Pride, and I’m currently the president of Pride for my university. I’m running online events all through the summer, and we’ve had feedback saying that keeping running through all this has really helped people’s mental health and made them feel less alone while they’re stuck at home in potentially unsupportive households. This is a tangent and I’m doing a Sunil, but basically yeah Oseman got this completely right!
Also yes I 100% agree that Much Ado About Nothing is one of the best, if not the best, Shakespeare plays. I love that show so much, it’s so great.
I put off writing this review because I knew it would get long lmao and look I was right. To sum up, this book is amazing, I loved it, and I recommend it to everyone because everyone can learn something from it.
Review originally written in 2020, prior to this blog’s creation